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The Pyramid for setting and achieving goals.

If you can invest just 137 minutes a day, you have the ability to change your path in life.

Based off all those books in the “Self-help” section of the bookstore, here is the all you need to know about setting and achieving goals without all the nonsense.
Socrates is famous for saying “Know Thyself, ” and that is the most important part of goals. You need to know who you are to know what you need. So, let’s start off with figuring out what your goals are first. Once you set your goals, you need to figure out what healthy habits you can implement into your day that will help you achieve these goals. Don’t go nuts you want to ease into this make three healthy habits you can live with and get used to. You will get to the point where these habits become just that a habit a no brainer and you can then add new habits.
(Note: Most habits form with 30 days on average)
Let’s look at the Pyramid from the top down.
So, we set our goals and habits, and we made a note of these (best to use your phone’s notepad or even the screen of your phone) It’s fun to make a Meme out of them or even find a meme on the internet that best fits your goal or habit.

2 x 1 minute; Set an alarm (On vibrate) at 11:11 AM and PM to remind me to look at my list or be present in the moment and compare this moment to what it can be once I achieve my goals. This 11:11 will also become a fun habit, and you won’t need to set the alarm. That’s it!

3 X 5minutes; Plan, Check-in, and Review, When you wake up plan your day. If you don’t have a map, you don’t know where you’re going. It’s always good to have an action plan and when you wake up is the best time to say to yourself “What will I do today to reach my goals?”  A mid-day check in to see how you’re going with your plan and to adjust accordingly, and finally and before bed congratulate you on what you did that day. DO NOT end your day with negative thoughts. It’s like giving yourself a good bedtime story to ease you into a full night’s sleep, and sleep is very important. So, let’s not toss and turn with negative thoughts all night.

30 minutes x 2 you need to take care of your Body and your Mind, lucky for you there is a correlation between 30 minutes of cardiovascular exercise and both learning and outlook. Per the book “Spark” when you perform cardiovascular exercise shortly before a difficult mental task your mind is primed for learning and problem-solving. Cardio can work for you if you want to be at your best for a meeting or during the most difficult part of your work day. A brisk walk can even help. 30 minutes is the magic number for cardio to release the endorphins and the BDNF which is touted as “Miracle Grow for the brain.”
Becoming and staying positive is a big part of a healthy long life. Optimistic people have been shown to live longer and healthier lives than people with negative outlooks. Part of this is that an optimistic person tends to be more outgoing and social which promotes a larger social circle and keeps them engaged with society. You can find some uplifting memes, podcasts, music and even a funny friend can do it for you. And if you are clever and want to cut your 137 minutes to 107 minutes of self-improvement time you can multitask. Consider listening to a podcast or watching inspirational videos while getting your cardio in.

1 An hour a day; of learning, something new. Leaders are Learners a great way to look at becoming a lifelong learner. You don’t have to read for an hour you can work on a puzzle or learn something at work that will help you achieve your goals. You just need to use your time in a way to get you closer to your goal. Part of your goal are healthy habits so think about your habits as part of the learning process. If you are trying to lose weight, for example, use the hour of learning to find better ways to eat or exercise. Learn things that will make you a better person.
You CAN NOT use this time during your cardio workout. Your brain is not able to learn as well during the actual workout because the blood supply if being used to feed your muscles and lungs. The BDNF is only after the workout. So, create a reading list or find some videos that you can learn from or manuals for your companies accreditations. Take an online class.

I hope this information helps you on your journey to the best you that you can be.


You are the books you read, the films you watch, the music you listen to, the people you meet, the dreams you have, the conversations you engage in. You are what you take from these. You are the sound of the ocean, the breath of fresh air, the brightest light and the darkest corner.

Rehearsing and Stand up Comedy


A lot of my comedian friend’s poo poo the Greg Dean book “Step by Step to Stand-up” I found it to be a bit confusing in the process of writing a joke and  I am still to this day a Judy Carter school of comedy guy when it comes to joke writing. But Greg Dean has changed my performing and remembering of sets and I have to say I have gotten nothing but compliments from day one of using his technique.

I think the greatest compliment I have gotten to date about my stand up was from my buddy Mayo, He hasn’t seen me perform in a long time and we were in a contest together and after I performed.

“That was the best set I have seen you do, So much better than that crap you were doing at the Philly’s Phoniest Contest”

Prior to this technique I have been told that if you were not looking at me why I was telling jokes that it sounded like I was reading them line for line. That was hard to take, but a great to know. That is why I am not an actor and don’t really want to be one.

I suggest you get the book or even better audio book, even though the voice on the audio book is annoyingly goofy.  So I am not going to write word for word how it works I will just say how it worked for me. I don’t want to write an entire chapter just what I have learned that works for me.

Rehearsing for my type of comedy: I am would be called a story teller type of comedian. I don’t have or use one liner type jokes, I build all my sets to have a running theme and I try very hard to have a natural flow from bit to bit… this is just how I am.

What I learned from Dean:

There are 2 stages of rehearsal and they are separated into “The Critic” and “The Creator” and you need to teach yourself to separate these two jobs/ways of thinking. This is the most important thing I have learned.  The reasoning behind this is that if you rehearse your set with “The Critic” correcting you at the same time you are working on your delivery and tone your are building that little negative “Critic” voice into your head during the your set. So this negative voice will come on stage with you and distract you why you are supposed to be delivering your set and having fun with your audience.

What to do with “The Critic”

You need to give the critic his voice just not why you’re going over your delivery and staging.

You need to use the critic to your advantage he is your friend, and if you use him he will make you a better comedian/writer.

Record your sets and practice sets then listen to it as the critic… make notes of what to change, then work that into the set.

Always critique your work in a space different from your practice area; you don’t even want to see the critic’s space from your practice area. Keep them physically and mentally separated.

What to do when you’re “The Creator”

This is when you are writing everyday like you should.

This is when you are practicing your delivery and staging and open mikes and thinking of what will make a great bit, and watching people.

This is when you learn your set: I am in love with the method I am about to tell you about… its works so well for me I no longer bring my set with me to shows or open mikes, I don’t have a set list and I am so much more relaxed about my jokes/bits. It may not work for everyone but it works for me and I love it. So here we go…again buy the book for better detail.

Don’t learn the words to the jokes: this is the wrong thing to do. You need to turn your bits into Pictures, Sounds and Feelings…sounds a bit odd right. It a way of turning the bit into a real memory that you can recall like telling a story about something that actually happened to you.

If you have a set with say 3 POV (Points of views) like You , The Narrator and a Third character (3 for this example) you will tell that joke or experience from each of those points of views act them out try to get the feel for all three of their feeling. Build an experience where you are more apt to remember the moment not the joke.

Do this until you are no longer trying to remember the words of the bit and now you are imagining that story about the experience you had.

I understand that there are particular words that you need to use for some bits… just practice them into the experience and why that word is being used.

Body Language 55, Tone 38 and Words 7: these are the percentages of how people get their information so build that tonal and body language into your set during the creative. Watch your set with the sound off and see what your body is saying. It’s amazing how many things you can do with body language and vocal tones to get the point across.

I am remembering my sets so much better and having more fun, I have a long way to go but I think this is a great way to rehearse.
Here are links to the books:

Larry Zbyszko: Professional Wrestler

I was totally brainwashed by my childhood idols – comic book heroes like Superman, the Lone Ranger, and one of my all-time favorites, Zorro. There was no doubt in my mind that saving the
helpless from injustice, thwarting evil and winding up with the beautiful damsel in distress was what life was all about. In fact, the first thing I did to my first house was put in a secret door so I could be just like Don Diego.

Man, was I screwed up.

Nevertheless, by the time I was twelve I knew what I was destined to become. I was going to be a hero.

Zbysko was still in his teens when he met the man who would make his dreams come true: Bruno Sammartino.

There was no doubt in my mind that I could achieve my childhood dream if I emulated this guy. I’d protect the weak, stop evil in its tracks and fly above the real world like Clark Kent. That’s right, I was going to become a professional wrestler. Zbysko’s dream came true just a few years later when, at 21, he won his first wrestling match.

The fans went berserk, blowing the roof off the arena. I was victorious–in just seventeen seconds. It couldn’t have happened any other way: Bruno’s protege has just exploded onto the scene. Feeling the energy, the emotional outbursts of thousands of people in unison, I was hooked. I began to live to pop crowds. And I was
never nervous again.